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Love and Relationship

In these seminars we will explore the essence of love. Through deep experiences and investigation we will uncover the difference between real love and all the layers of conditioning and protection that hinder us to truly open to love. Through meditations and exercises you will be able to awaken to your hearts fullness and its flavor, acceptance. This transformational process creates an entirely different way of relating - with yourself, your lover, your family, your work and creativity.





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LOVE AND ALONENESS
 
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This is an intense 4day group process that will allow you to look at issues and conditionings that you have around love. Especially in relating with other people we get easily hurt and learn from our early childhood to build a wall of protection around our hearts in order to be able to survive. Today all these layers of protection are in the way from us being able to give or receive love.

Because we are afraid of being hurt, rejected, abandoned, misunderstood, manipulated etc. we separate ourselves from the other and cutoff from our deeper feelings, to withdraw into a space of inner isolation that we then call aloneness. It is an aloneness that comes out of separation and for sometime may feel like a relief but mostly moves into a deep inner sense of loneliness or emptiness. We often mistake this state for independence or meditation when infect it is an escape of the basic pain of separation. Rejection or abandonment in any form from the outside just triggers the disconnectedness with ourselves, our hearts and therefore with existence, God, the master.

We first need to see what is in the way of us reconnecting with true love before we can experience true aloneness. Through the loving atmosphere and intensity of this process there is an opportunity to expose the layers around your heart and from a place of vulnerability to experience aloneness that is not cut off and includes a connectedness to yourself and the divine.
 
 
"Love brings always aloneness, aloneness brings always love.
Loneliness is like a wound.
Aloneness is like a flower, a lotus blooming in your heart.
It is a joy of being yourself.
Real lovers give each other freedom to be alone."


- Osho


 

LOVE, WILL AND TRUST
 
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In this process we will look at our own trust and ability to live our lives and to love. Sometimes we get a glimpse what love really means, but we don't have the strength and the ability to stand up for it and feel enough support on the inside so that we can „walk it through". It's as if we miss our inner backbone and our strength to just be. Out of this disconnection comes a feeling of deep inner fear and anxiety. In order not to feel that we compensate by effort and putting on a false will, and with that we loose the contact to ourselves, the natural flow of life and to the divine will.

Love has to do with the courage to open my heart and give and receive. And the true will has to do trust in ourselves and in Life, and the inner support to be grounded in our own center and body and having the strength to surrender to a bigger flow, even if it doesn't always go as i want it. It's a surrender to something higher and much bigger then just me.the surrender to life's flow. With it comes a great feeling of Trust.

In this seminar we will work with dyads and exercises that will initiate and help to strengthen this energy. Instead if fighting against ourselves we learn to accept certain parts of our true essential being, that will help us to build a bridge between love and trust and between spirituality and our daily life's.

The work consists of self inquiry, and an understanding from moment to moment that orients itself in the love for truth. This openness and acceptance of what is, creates a field of awareness and is needed to rediscover new and maybe forgotten aspects of our being.
 
 
"The morning wind spreads its fresh smell
We must get up and take that in,
that wind that lets us live.
Breathe before it is gone.
Dance , when you're broken open.
Dance, if you've torn the bandage off.
Dance in the middle of the fighting.
Dance in the middle of your blood.
Dance, when your`re perfectly free. "


- Rumi


 

LOVE AND THE SHADOW
 
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In this process we deal with our ability to love and open up . We have a look, why so often when we become intimate, or we are very close to our beloved's, or friends, suddenly a dark unconscious part appears, that sabotages ,frightens and terrorizes us. Often love turns into hatred and self doubt. We find an inner resistance and defensiveness, that we use to hide behind. And when we want to come out again, we often don't know how to do that, and are stuck in our inner feeling of isolation anger and pain. We judge this dark side in us, we condemn it and try to push it away, and deny it's existence. Pushed into the dark it takes revenge in an unconscious way, by extreme self - hatred, and an anger that acts out in destructive ways, sometimes even makes us sick and hurts us and others.

Through bringing light to that part in us, we discover, that it is a great power that lies in the depth of our being. If we learn to accept the origin of that energy, and learn how to treat it with understanding and friendliness, this energy can relax, and transform into a deep feeling of inner peace and completeness.

This power has a great force and intensity, and if accepted, embraced and deeply understood can bring an inner feeling of peace, silence, depth and intuition. It is the essence of truth and inner protection.

In this process we will work with Dyads, self-inquiry, meditations and exercises. It will create a field of experience, where you can experience a space of deep acceptance, understanding and compassion and out of it comes an opening to a deeper love, that integrates love and hatred, male and female, the good and the bad, and darkness and light, both aspects of life. 
 
 
"And truth is a potential power, a great power. Even if a fragment, just a deed of truth, falls into your heart, sooner or later you will become the Garden of Eden. It cannot be avoided."

- Osho


 

LOVE, DEVOTION AND INDIVIDUALITY
Essential Realization - the path of the heart
 
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When we are born we come in contact with our true being- our essence. One of these aspects of essence we find in our first months in a symbiotic melting with the mother. It is a pleasurable, sweet, melting Love. We are content, happy and in peace. A bit later in our development we learn to stand on our own feet. We develop strength, self-worth, joy, and other aspects of our personal essence. With the growing up, we often have to let go of mother and with it we loose connection to that sweet symbiotic feeling of love, and with it we often feel that melting love disappears out of our lives. We are left with a feeling of emptiness, deficiency, and inadequateness. Later on we try to find this melting sweet symbiotic state in our lives through partnership, work, knowledge, power etc. We hope that our partner or work for instance will fill that hole. We think we can fill that hole only through the outside and we forget that we are Love, and have it all inside.

We find ourselves in dependencies, that make it difficult, to develop our individuality. We believe that we can only love, and be loved, if we give ourselves up, or by loosing ourselves in the other. Or we withdraw into aloneness and cut off, to have a feeling of individuality. In both cases we deep down feel frustrated and dissatisfied, and we are in fear and pain.

Through objective understanding self-inquiry, meditations and exercises we will create an opportunity to discover deep respect for your own essence, and so find love inside of us. This love is independent from the outside, and might be retrieved as our source.

Only through deep respect and reverence, and the willingness to open up and be vulnerable and without defensiveness, can devotion and at the same time individuality arise in a relationship. In a field of deep acceptance you can open and love yourself and the other. Love and devotion can flow-a love where you don't loose yourself, but at the same time you can stand on your own feet. The discovery of these different qualities of essence brings a deep sense of fulfillment and integration.
 
 
"Just a drop, and the whole ocean will find it's way towards you."

- Osho



LOVE AND RELATING
 
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This intensive 4 days starts with the feeling - inquiry into the openness of what we already are. From our heart felt sense of being we will journey into an exploration of male and female identities. We will explore the divine aspect of it and with it comes also the shadow side of male and female roles that we embody. Out of our embodiment of Shiva and Shakti there will be a different and new meeting possible, between man and woman.

In an atmosphere of meditation and love there will be a ground were you can play, experiment and retrieve new aspect of your natural being.

A lot of the time will be spent in silence together, so that we can go
beyond habitual patterns of social relating and conversations.

We will do exercises that will help you to open your body, heart and soul and learn to communicate, relate and discover true and authentic ways to open yourselves to others, to love and to deeper aspects of your being.
 
 
"For God to make love,
for the divine alchemy to work,
the pitcher needs a still cup.
Why ask Hafiz to say anything more about the most vital requirement?"


- Hafiz



ART OF DYING: LIVING TO THE MAX
 
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One of our main fears is around death and letting go. Death shows us very clearly, that we are not in control of the situation, we don't know when we die, and we don't know how we will die. This leads to deep seated fears, that we will face in this process. The meeting with death is a challenge, to face how we live and what is unfinished in our lives. Do we really love? Do we really live , what we came here for? Are we really fulfilled with the way how we live our lives? And if I would die right now, am I really ready for it, is the mirror of my heart really polished and shiny?

These are the questions that will come up, and that we deal with in this process. Death is a possibility to say good bye , maybe through letting go of a loved one, or through letting go of your parents. It is a possibility to learn to let go of old ideas and concepts , of old feelings that you haven't forgiven yourself or somebody else for. Death is an amazing door into learning to wake up into this moment, and live this life, in every moment as if it would be the last. It is a possibility to learn to celebrate life, and enjoy the enfoldments of it, even if it is not always as you would want it to be. It is a deep recognition that we are here now and can trust the deep flow of the river of our life.

This process will be mostly in silence, and held in a very retreat like atmosphere. we will do meditations, and will do some work around unfinished business, and forgiveness to bring our life to completion, and at the same time being able to life live to its fullest.
It creates a new quality of living that will lead us directly to the heart and to love.
 
 
"If metal can be polished
To a mirror-like finish-
What polishing does the mirror
Of the heart require?

Between the mirror and the heart
Is this single difference:
The heart conceals secrets
While the mirror does not.
"

- Rumi


 

HEALING SHOCK AND TRAUMA
 
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In these days we will in a very soft and gentle way looking at new ways to approach shock and trauma. You will learn a very healing and gentle way to deal with yourself in it.

The 1 . step is to discover that you are in a traumatic activation. And the second step is learning to track the Sensations in the body, and discover resources, that will enable you to slowly slowly face the traumatic situation. Traumatic experiences are held in the body, and only through bodily awareness can they dissolve and heal.
A psychic trauma is an event that overruns the stimulus of the body and provokes a deep feelings of helplessness, that is affecting the nervous system. Through rediscovering our felt sense in our bodies, can we find again a place of safety in our body, and so slowly start to dissolve the trauma.

Its i a very healing process, where you learn how to unwind the frozenness , complete the fight and fight responses, and reconnect with your orienting response, so that you can again trust your bodies responses. And thus find a way of healing and aliveness again.

Mostly we will work with the work of Dr. Peter Levine. He discovered very important tools and skilful means that are very important in the work with trauma . this process is very soft and very gentle, we will do some meditations and some gentle body work that will support the healing process.


What you will learn:
Connecting with your own resources
Working in a relaxed atmosphere
looking at boundaries and starting to accept them
not to push, but to let things evolve in its own way
trusting the body opening yourself up to states of being, relaxation, and meditation a deeper understanding of how trauma is created and what it does to us understanding of Dissociation and frozenness centring in body learning that the healing process takes it times, and trust that. trusting your resources not only for trauma but also for your life.
 
 
Through Love all that is bitter
becomes sweet
Through love all that is copper
becomes gold
Through Love all dregs will turn
to purest wine;
Through Love all pain becomes medicine.
Through Love the dead become alive,
Through Love the king becomes a slave.


- Rumi


 
A WOMAN'S WORTH
 
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In this group we will explore females issues, that are almost every women's themes today. As many women have been rejecting their bodies so strongly, we are going to work with the body, and see what is in the way of love and acceptance. There are so many ideas of what it means to be a woman, and these ideas are stifling us, and keep us from discovering our true nature. To be in a feminine body is a great gift! The feminine body is full of life, sensuousness, intuitiveness, softness and strength, so how can we learn to accept and appreciate it, without somehow becoming like men? By discovering the precious gift that we have inside.

We will look at beliefs of unworthiness, codependancy, and different kinds of identities, that keep hindering us in living the female potential .
We will face issues around competition, jealousy, and envy, that hinder us, to respect each other, and look at our way of being focused at men only, and seeing ourselves through their eyes, and thus give our power away , and allow endless abuse.

We will also have to deal with our shadowside, the kali aspect of the feminine, that is live giving but also life destroying., and negative. Through awareness and courage we might be able to face these unconscious aspects in ourselves. Through sharings an atmosphere of trust and honesty is created , that might enables us to look and to feel what actually is underneath all these issues, and explore what is our true feminine essence.

We'll do some body opening structures , meditations and exercises that help us to open and to expand into new areas.
 
 
"Today, the reason we haven't found our grail, the key to who we are as women, is because we look for it in worlds of false power, the very worlds that took it away from us in the first place. Neither men nor work can restore our lost scepter. Nothing in this world can take us home. Only the radar in our hearts can do that, and when it does, ... 'We will light up like lamps, and the world will never be the same again."

- Marianne Williamons


 
MEN AND WOMEN ON THE PATH OF LOVE
With Rafia and Turiya
 
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This is an advanced group for people that have already participated in the Path of Love. The intention is to use the approach of POL to take an in-depth look at masculine and feminine issues.

How we approach our spiritual path, how we realize our true nature and how we express ourselves in both, our spiritual and material lives has much to do with the clarity, confidence and relaxation we have about being a man or a woman.

This group is for people that want freedom from old patterns of relationship and want to live their deepest potential in love. It is an invitation to meet in honesty and respect; to learn to support each other to realize our potential rather than being caught in patterns of negative merging, unworthiness, shame, competition and envy.

This process is born from the sincere longing to find and live truth. It will be supported by love and conducted in an atmosphere of depth, honesty and devotion. It is a place to explore issues of the masculine and feminine as well as patterns of relationship in a context of longing for the Beloved.

 

LIEBE UND SCHATTEN
 
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In diesem Prozess setzen wir uns mit unserer Liebesfähigkeit auseinander und schauen, warum so oft wenn es ganz intim und nah wird in einer Beziehung oder mit Freunden, da plötzlich eine dunkle Seite auftaucht, die uns erschreckt und unangenehm ist. Oft kommt aus Liebe Hass, und eine innere Abwehr, hinter der wir uns verstecken, und aus der wir dann oft nicht mehr hinaus koennen. Wir urteilen diese dunkel Seite, und versuchen sie weg zu schieben , und zu verneinen.

Durch Bewusstwerdung und Aufdecken dieser inneren Kraft, lernen wir sie zu akzeptieren, und lernen vorsichtig damit etwas liebevoller und achtsamer umzugehen. Diese Kraft hat eine ungeheure Macht, und wenn angenommen, bringt sie tiefen innerlich Frieden, Stille und einen Zugang zu unserer Intuition.Es ist die Essenz der Wahrheit und des inneren Schutzes.

In dieser Gruppe arbeiten wir mit Dyaden, Übungen und Selbst Erforschung. Es wird ein Feld geschaffen, wo du dich tief erleben kannst, und ein Raum entsteht von tiefer Akzeptanz, Verständniss, Mitgefuehl und damit die Oeffnung zur Liebe.



 

LIEBE UND ALLEINSEIN
 
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